What No One Tells You About Having a Baby

Your doctor will provide you with important information upon returning home with your newborn. Most of the topics include info about postpartum depression, breastfeeding, etc. However, advice on the "small things" is often overlooked.

First of all, expect to pee your pants...a lot. You will lose bladder control for a few days to several weeks after delivering your baby. Keep track of when you use the restroom so you can schedule your next visit, even if you don't feel the urge. Plan on wearing the heinous diapers...uh, er, "pads" they'll send home with you. Ask for extra disposable underwear before you go home too. They hold the "pads" well and limit laundry loads as you just throw them away. (While you're at it get extra witch hazel pads and numbing spray too).

You will most likely bleed for a few weeks after delivery too. This will be no big deal since you'll be peeing all over the place and needing pads anyways. It'll all be one big mess.

Also, you'll never forget the day your milk comes in. Engorgement is a very noteworthy experience. You may produce an overabundance of milk (usually about 3 days after delivery). It will probably flow from you like a faucet and saturate nursing pads very quickly. I would recommend wearing a baby diaper as a nursing pad as it will hold more and for a longer period of time. Don't pump! That will only encourage your body to produce more. Your breasts will feel like solid rock, but it will only last a day or so. Hang in there!

Your baby may want to eat as often as every hour or so. Don't set a schedule just yet. Feed your baby when he or she is hungry. Remember, your baby is tired from his/her delivery as well. Feeding and sleeping patterns may be erratic for a while as your baby recovers from delivery.
* Side note: Feed your baby immediately following delivery. This is referred to as "The Golden Hour." Be aware that at that time your baby will be the most alert. Your baby will grow tired after this hour and may not want to eat every 2-3 hours (what they suggest in the hospital). Don't be scared if your baby will not eat that often...this is normal! (My nurse urged me to feed my baby, but he wouldn't eat! I was very worried, until the head nurse told me that was normal).

If you deliver vaginally you will most likely have stitches to take care of. Use the squirt bottle to rinse every time you use the restroom. The stitches can be rather...pokey. You can use a mirror to check on them and make sure they look ok. They don't necessarily "dissolve" and you may end up pulling chunks of stitching out as you heal...lovely, huh? You can tear one end of a baby diaper open and fill it with crushed ice to place in your underwear to help with swelling and soreness.

Lastly, there is the matter of your first...ummm...bowel movement. Take the stool softeners prescribed by your doctor! When the time comes (after a few days) take it slow. Don't be too....aggressive. Relax and good things will happen.

Make sure to add your baby to the insurance as soon as possible. Immunizations (if you plan on getting them) are crazy expensive.

Mommy Makeup in a Minute

When mommy duty takes over the last thing on your mind is “How do I look?” With all the spitting up, waking up and catching up the first thing to go is the make-up.

I was tired of looking tired and quickly found a way to complete my modified mommy make-up routine in just one minute (yes, I timed myself). Here it is:

0.00: Apply foundation (I like to use Aveeno Positively Radiant Tinted Moisturizer with SPF 30. It moisturizes and protects and has just the right amount of coverage).

12.55: Apply blush (I prefer Plumberry Glow by Covergirl. It has a nice pink factor that brightens/wakes up the face).

20.47: Curl lashes

43.44: Apply mascara (I like Falsies by Maybelline)

57.24: Apply favorite lip gloss

That's it! If I'm feeling exotic and have an extra minute to spare I'll toss on some eyeshadow before curling my lashes. I like to use Retrospeck by MAC because it's light and natural-looking with a bit of shimmer.

There you go- a quick and easy way to get ready for your day!

Top Ten Items for the First Time Mom

It is so easy to get caught up in buying every single piece of baby gear you see advertised. You are bombarded with “advice,” they like to call it, as soon as word spreads that you are expecting. It then becomes necessary to have everything man ever made for your baby simply because you will be a bad parent if you don’t buy the fade-resistant, bug-repellant, one-size-fits-most, reflective, warming wipie dehumidifier. Don’t you even care about the little miracle you’re carrying? Guilt then takes you over and you stock the nursery wall-to-wall with items you’ll never use.

When I was expecting my first child, I was excited about all the baby gear I would get. Every baby website I visited provided some sort of shopping list with all the items “necessary” to welcome baby. I quickly became overwhelmed with the amount of work I had to do in order to be a prepared mother.

Surprisingly, there have only been a handful of things I’ve actually found necessary (or at least enough to make day-to-day activities do-able).

1. You must have an infant car seat, and you must buy it new. I purchased the travel system (stroller and car seat combo) but have yet to get much use out of the stroller, as I carried my baby in a sling most of the time. If you are planning on having other children, it might be wise to purchase a stroller that holds more than one child, but wait on this until you are expecting the next child.
2. A baby sling. I refused to be tied down with a bulky stroller and found it much more comforting to carry my baby in a sling the first few months. The sling provides a wonderful way for you to be close with your baby and still have full use of your arms. I was able to do much of my housework with baby in tow, and it is very easy to travel with. I love the Over-the-Shoulder-Baby-Holder, but they are no longer manufactured (I found mine on e-bay). A friend recommended the ERGObaby Carrier and I've heard great things about Baby Bjorn.
3. An infant positioner. There are definitely times when you will not be able to hold your baby, such as while cooking or showering, but still want to keep an eye on the little one. I was given a used bouncer from a friend and it worked wonderfully. You can buy one new at Buy Buy Baby or Babies ‘R’ Us.
4. A place for your baby to sleep. I was given a pack ‘n play that has worked out great for night time sleeping. It has a bassinet insert to keep baby at an easy reach. I found it more useful than a classic crib as it provides several functions (crib, bassinet, changing table, play yard, etc).
5. A comfy chair. Not only can nursing take a toll on your back if you are not positioned comfortably, it can also make nursing more difficult for you and your baby and even lead to cracked nipples. I was given a rocking chair, but any chair you find comfortable will do just fine. It is also nice to have a pillow to help support your baby while you nurse.
6. Nursing Pads. I went through several boxes of nursing pads for the first few months after my baby was born. I preferred the disposables. I found that the most concealable were the Lansinoh individually wrapped pads, but preferred to wear the Johnson’s around the house as they are much cheaper. Do not use the Nuk pads as they leak.
7. Sports Bras. Specialty nursing bras are completely overpriced, super uncomfortable and not necessary. I found sports bras at Target in packs of 2 for $10. I liked them so much, I bought 10 of them. I was comfortable in them day and night. Just remember to wear something with give as your breasts will vary in size dramatically when nursing.
8. Burp Cloths. If your baby is blessed with the gag reflex mine had you will need many burp cloths. My sister-in-law made me some out of cloth diapers which worked great. You can make your own, use hand towels or receiving blankets...just be sure to have something on hand when burping your baby.
9. Diapers/Wipes. Whether you are using cloth or disposable diapers, be sure to have some stocked at home. I have used several different brands of disposables and all of them have worked fine. The blow-outs we did experience simply told us it was time to move up to the next size. You will most likely need to use newborn size for the first couple of weeks.
10. Clothes. Be sure to have some newborn size clothes even if you are expecting a larger baby. Gerber has great onesie packs that are fairly cheap. Make sure the clothes you do buy do not have buttons on the back side as they will not be comfortable for your baby to lay on.

These items are the items I found most helpful for new mommy-dom. I'm sure women out there can get by with even fewer things, but I felt having the mentioned items was a good balance between comfort and necessity.